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"Magnetism, as you recall from physics class, is a powerful force that causes certain items to be attracted to refrigerators."--Dave Barry

The metaphysical law of attraction has gained publicity steadily since the 2006 release of Rhonda Byrne's book and DVD The Secret. After being featured on Oprah twice, the book reached the top of the New York Times bestseller list, and both the film and the book were #1 bestsellers on Amazon.com. But the knowledge that people's thoughts, both conscious and unconscious, have the power to shape the reality of their lives has been known throughout the ages. As early as 1904, philosophers began describing the way in which energies of the same vibrational frequency attract like energy, including thought energy. In fact, The Secret is largely based on a book by Wallace D. Wattles, The Science of Getting Rich, published in 1910.

While The Secret and Mr. Wattles' book agree on many points about the power of positive thinking and feeling, The Secret pays little attention to the third necessary ingredient for tangible results: action. Mr. Wattles is very clear that only when thoughts, feelings, and actions are in alignment toward an outcome, will that outcome become reality.

As a coach, not only do I find that action is a key ingredient for success; it is the only measure I have to assess the effectiveness of thoughts and feelings. You see, when your thoughts and feelings are not in alignment, actions are difficult or impossible. I often use the analogy of a power plant, conductive power lines and the switch on your computer. The power plant creates the energy; the conductive wire carries the energy from the plant to your home so that, when you flip the switch on your computer, it powers up. As long as there aren't any obstructions or kinks in the wire, your computer will power up every time. That's your indication that the energy channel is clear.

The power plant represents the feelings you have for a desired outcome. We can use a small business owner's desire for increased sales as an example. The business owner feels the urge to make more sales and thinks of ways to do just that. She might offer a free seminar to educate and connect with her customers, or publish a few articles in local papers. Her feelings generate the energy at the power plant; her thoughts conduct the energy. But what happens when she doesn't schedule the seminars or write the articles? The actions don't materialize, even though she had positive thoughts and feelings about increasing sales. Flipping the switch on the computer didn't power up the machine.

When your actions are blocked, it is an indication that you have a kink in your energy wire. In the case of this business owner, 9 times out of 10, the block comes from fear of failure, fear of looking silly, fear of criticism and, believe it or not, fear of actually growing the business. These fears are often felt in the body. Clients have described the feeling as a heavy weight or blobby thing in the pit of the stomach. Some clients get a lump in the throat or feel as though they have to speak around a ball. It's hard to conduct energy along a wire that has a heavy weight sitting on it, right?

The point of this article is to make it clear that, when you desire a change in your life and think about ways to bring that change into reality, you must act to make it happen. If you encounter a block in your energy and can't produce actions in alignment with your thoughts, take action to find a great coach who can help you free the block. For those who continue to feel good feelings and think positive thoughts while not taking action, the change they desire will stay stuck in their minds.

"Magnetism, as you recall from physics class, is a powerful force that causes certain items to be attracted to refrigerators."--Dave Barry

What do you think? Can a person control anything with feelings and thoughts? Is there anything to this law of attraction stuff? Have you ever felt positive feelings and thought positive thoughts, and found a lump in your throat or a weight in your gut? Did it ever stop you from taking action? Write to me at Lorraine@Peacemaker-Coach.com and share your story or your opinion.
Warmest Regards,
Lorraine Esposito

Life and fitness coach and author Lorraine Esposito has been featured in broadcast, print and online media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership and empowered parenting to community and school-based audiences. Find out more about Lorraine at www.Peacemaker-Coach.com and her latest book at http://www.morningpeacemaker.com  The Morning Peacemaker, How to get your kids out the door on time without saying(nagging) a word. If you have kids ages 2 to 12 you'll LOVE this book!


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