Don't be afraid to want what you truly want.
"Don't play not to lose. Play to win."
Happiness takes action. And action takes energy. Well where
does this energy come from? Playing to win means giving it all
you've got ... no holds barred ... playing flat out. That takes
a huge output of energy! So how does a person summon up (or
create) the kind of energy that will power actions great enough
so that he or she can play to win?
Desire. It all comes from desire. When you want
something badly enough and the desire is hot enough, the
resulting motivation is the most powerful fuel known to man (or
woman, wink). Seriously, the most powerful. The
burning desire to win has fueled the space program, mapped the
human genome and created Mount Rushmore--all impossible feats
made possible by desire. Obviously, there are some incredible
things that can be done with enough energy.
The most potent desire runs deeper than just your thoughts,
though; persuasive desire must be wrapped in a vision of
winning that entices your physical body to respond--a
vision conjured up in your mind that is so real you can feel
the power in your being. The thrill of winning can be imagined
so vibrantly that your pulse quickens, you smile, you start to
perspire and you radiate joy, all from the seat of your couch.
You have to see yourself crossing the finish line
first, not third. You have to see yourself winning
your dream job, not just being employed. You must see
yourself dancing in the arms of your dream partner on
your wedding day, not just getting married.
Playing to not lose means you're preparing not to
win. Where is the juice in that? Of two people training
for a marathon, who will be able to rally the energy to train
best: the runner who trains to win or the runner who trains not
to come in last?
So just how does one create a vision powerful enough to
rally the energy needed? It all starts with your
imagination. Close your eyes and imagine the win. Feel
the thrill of the event and smile as you do it. Each time you
conjure up the vision, the picture will become more detailed
and colorful. Your moving images will have more energy and will
even develop sound! You'll add more story details to the
beginning and to the end of the win.
At first, you'll watch the scene as an outside observer, as
if watching yourself in a movie. But over time, you'll shift
your perspective; you'll become the star living the event
firsthand. You'll see all the action through your own eyes and
hear your own voice shout in victory. When you get to this
stage, the desire you hold in your heart picks up the energy
needed to overcome all obstacles and land a man on the moon.
I know this power of vision firsthand. As I began writing my
book, The Morning Peacemaker, I concentrated each day
on the vision of holding this creation in my hands. I added
color to the cover of the book, and sound as I spoke to groups
about it. The vision of my desire became more real with each
playing of the scene, until recently--August 25, 2009, to be
exact--the vision that had only been imagined in my mind became
the tangible object I held in my hands! That is a powerful
feeling, my friends. And it was the power of my desire that
created that reality.
Be a powerful creator each day and create the vision of
winning whatever game you're playing. Then unleash that power
and play to win!
Tell me what you think about the power of visualizing. Is it
a bunch of hooey or do you believe that the power inherent in a
vibrant imagination can create? E-mail me at
or post your thoughts for all to see at http://www.Peacemaker.forumotion.com.
I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
"Don't play not to lose. Play to win." --Unknown
Life and fitness coach and author Lorraine Esposito has
been featured in broadcast, print and online media and is a
public speaker regarding personal leadership and empowered
parenting to community and school-based audiences. Find out
more about Lorraine at www.Peacemaker-Coach.com
and her latest book at http://www.morningpeacemaker.com
The Morning Peacemaker, How to get your kids out the
door on time without saying(nagging) a word. If you have
kids ages 2 to 12 you'll LOVE this book