August 19, 2012
The Game of 10 What
Attitudes are habits of
thought created by repeatedly thinking or feeling something.
Once formed, attitudes provide
the personal meaning and relevance for all new information.
Attitudes are also called beliefs.
Attitudes operate outside
conscious awareness becoming our assumptions, judgments, bias, and ultimately our
behavior. Limiting beliefs and prejudice are attitudes that get in the way of
Play the Game of 10
Object of the
attitudes by challenging your child to find 10 alternative explanations for something
Play begins when
your child negatively reacts to something observed.
validates the comment, “Okay, that might be true,” then offers a funny and semi-silly
alternate explanation, “or maybe (_____) is true.”
invites the child to take turns thinking of alternative explanations until all 10 are
End of Game
Adult subtly comments that all
explanations, including the initial negative reaction, may or may not be true.
Only by knowing more can anyone be sure.
None! Remotely plausible—even
ridiculous—explanations count. If playing with more than one child, bump the
What Ifs from 10 to 15 or more. All explanations are validated with humor and
The “Girlfriend Didn’t Call” Example
Negative Reaction: “She hates
“Okay, that might be true, or
maybe her phone broke.”
Child: Her mom wouldn’t let her call
Adult: She bit her tongue and can’t talk
Child: She called but I didn’t hear the phone
Adult: She was abducted by aliens …
Get the picture?
By validating the initial
reaction without contradicting, you’ve shown your child great
You’ll be surprised how funny
the game gets. Humor lightens even the heaviest
Without jumping to
conclusions, your child will learn to respond as things unfold vs. closing down and possibly
You create social capital by
your demonstration of objectivity.
We promise to teach our kids
how to love and be loved. By helping to lift limiting beliefs you’re helping
them love themselves—the foundation for it all.
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