Tip of the Week
Insurance Against Mediocrity
What it is: A condescending attitude broadcasting
that you are the only person with something worth listening
Important: Creates the opposite environment for
The Problem: Habit, Attitude,
Habit: Your job is
to talk or teach during the day.
Attitude: You think
your ideas are always right.
right equals strength - survival of the "rightest."
Regardless the reason, people stop listening to a
The Tip: 10 Edgy
If you’re trying to strengthen your relationship with a know-it-all, or you suspect that you have become
one, experiment with a few of these edgy questions that, when asked nicely and curiously, will surely grab the
attention of even the most righteous.
- Are you aware that you spend a lot of time trying to convince me how
intelligent you are?
- I'm used to having 2-way conversations, why are you dominating this
- Do you realize that you're telling me things that I already know?
- Do you realize that you’re telling me things that I don't really need/want to
- Is your biggest fear that you'll appear ignorant?
- Whoa, why are you trying so hard to convince me?
- Why do you talk so much? What are you hoping to gain?
- Are you trying to impress me?
- Am I the only person in your life who really listens to you?
Do you just want me to be your audience?
I know, I know . . .
Yes, these may be difficult to ask someone you care about—especially if that “someone” is you. Take some
time to weight the risk with the benefits:
- If the risk is less than the frustration – ask.
- If the risk is greater than your frustration – ask anyway.
Frustration stinks up a relationship and robs you of your power to influence. Tolerating a “know-it-all”
creates a bad habit of thinking you have little value to contribute.
Remember to sharpen your communication skills and pick your timing or your words won’t
reach anyone’s ear.
Benefits: In addition to the influence
supporting environments above, consider this gem from John Wooden:
“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.”
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