Tip of the Week
Insurance Against Mediocrity
What is it: The influence to conform to a peer group.
Okay, what's peer group? An informal primary group of
people who share similar interests and backgrounds. People of a peer group feel a close bond with one another
through the perception of sameness.
Why it’s Important: We are likely to become an average of the 5
people with whom we spend the most time.
The Problem: Parent’s don’t
count in a kid’s assessment of the meaning of “peer” and therefore don’t count among the 5 core influential people
that the child will average into. Consider the old saying: If you’re
not with us, you’re against us.
The Tip: For one day, observe
the issues your child faces. Consciously be mindful of her
challenges and the areas in which she is most comfortable. Watch
how she uses all her resources to navigate through one school day. Then,
for each challenge you observe, pause and reflect upon yourself at her age facing the same challenge.
Remember what it felt like to be in the fray facing the challenge and then remember
how you navigated through to the other side.
What resources did you call upon?
How many times did you try and fail before
How did that particular challenge spread out to create
other challenges that day?
5 things you'll learn through the
Respect for your child's courage to face challenges
Admiration for her resourcefulness to find her way though (even if
she hasn't been successful . . . yet)
Confidence that she will be okay in the long run -- hey,
you made it, right? She'll make it, too.
Openers for conversations that might enable your wisdom to be
heard by her, even if just a little
Common ground adding to the
perception of sameness
Bonus! Trust builds! You'll peek her curiosity when you start to show understanding and appreciation
vs. judgment. That's all it takes initially for her to start considering you a credible ally.
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