December 16, 2012
all starts here
To shield from damage the
freedom to be a child. For the purposes of this week’s tip, let’s consider
childhood as ages 2 to 12.
Childhood is a safe haven of
time during which children are supported as they experiment with the world.
Experimentation is the pathway
to understanding who they are, what they’re good at, and what makes them happy.
The unspeakable tragedy at the
Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT has rightfully and
understandably changed the way we will look at people; heightening our fear of the differences
in others. That which we don’t understand will scare us more now.
As an adult viewing other
adults, I can’t suggest anything but caution—I, too, will be much more watchful and leery of
behavior that I don’t understand.
As we seek to protect
childhood, let’s make sure to protect a young child’s need to experiment with identity.
Try it on for
Find out how what you wear
Step 1: Pick a
Pick a fictional character
that your child likes to imitate.
Play dress-up! Encourage
your child to wear a different combination of clothes to school to test the way it feels to be
more like this character.
Working together and using the
clothes in your child’s closet, pull together an outfit that represents the character to be played.
Selecting clothes and/or accessories with the intention of role-play unlocks the power of
imagination that transforms your child into this character.
Of course, you will use your
good judgment so as to assemble an appropriate outfit for the setting.
Step 3: Everything's
One way to help kids discover
the good and not-so-good results of an experiment is to frame it like a
Just as in a real laboratory
experiment, create the if/then hypothesis predicting the outcome.
Step 4: Celebrate and
Regardless the result, the
experiment is a success because the experiment was all about discovery—discovering how life felt to
your child when she showed up differently.
allow your child to do 90% of the talking.
anything good or bad.
Do trust that with each
experiment, your child will find the best way to navigate through the world.
are here to influence the experiment and to help guide the process.
Walking in the shoes of
others helps kids
understand the pros and cons of each
||Your child will
learn, confirm, or dispel something.
It’s a game of discovery
without right or wrong answers.
By encouraging discovery
and supporting the light and dark halves of characters, your child will feel holistically
We promise to teach our kids
how to make good choices and to have the courage to think and act for themselves.
Considering the recent tragic events, it’s more important than ever that we keep these
By encouraging experiential
discovery we help our kids appreciate the balance between happy and sad for themselves and
Empathy is an essential ingredient for all our best choices and is learned
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